Thursday, September 24, 2009

More Photos from Argentina

I tried posting more photos from Argentina in the post about our trip. However, my computer skills did not allow me to do it. I am posting more under this post. I only have a minute as Maximo does not know how long to microwave a chicken nugget.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

I prefer dirty laundry

A friend of mine, another mom made a posting on her blog that really got me thinking. She discussed an interaction with another mom about why she has a maid and does not cook all of her family's meals. It sounded like envy to me.

However, posting made me really think about my life. At times, I am guilty not working full time. Its insane. Women can be mean to one other and even interactions with other moms (ADULT WOMEN)can be high school all over again with cliques and jealousy and gossip. I dont know when this "mean" cycle ends. I can only try not to engage in it.

I remember an incident when I was pregnant and new to Phoenix. I figured I would meet some cool women at pre-natal yoga. In my experience, I have gotten along with other yogis. The teacher said we would all become one anothers best friends. I felt hopeful. A few pregnant moms were having lunch, did not extend the invitation so I invited myself. I felt like a fish out of water.

I think I never wrote about because I was in shock. At every pre-natal class rarely did anybody give me a smile or say hello let alone invite me to lunch. I tried to "turn the other cheek" but I got tired of reaching into an empty well. At the end of my pregnancy, I was on modified bed rest so I stopped going to pre-natal yoga.

After I had Leo, I was surprised to receive emails from other moms in the class about their childbirth and newborn experiences. One of the women suggested we all meet with babies for coffee. Today, I can say these women are good friends and very supportive. We have a weekly playgroup. Many of the moms stay at home or have flexible working schedules.

Anyways, back to my friends blog posting. She discussed a Maureen Dowd article about how Americans are less happier then ever. In general, I am much happier now that I am a mom. I would not return to single life and/or exchange it for my baby. My son is precious to me. I am so grateful to have him in my life. I had 25 years of working in jobs I did not always like. I have a greater purpose being a mom and being happy. I am trying to figure out what is my passion.

It is unfortunate that other women are so critical of one another. I have definitely met judgmental moms and some not so much. It sounds like the woman was envious of you! I see you and you are happy. We only have 2 hands and 1 heart-its impossible to do it all. I would rather have dirty laundry and left overs then give up my time with my child.

Viaje a Nueva York

Viaje a Nueva York